Americans are seemingly having less sex now than they were two decades ago, according to a survey conducted by the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago. The survey, which focused on individuals between the ages of 18 and 44, found that not only are more adults encountering sexual dry spells that last longer than a year, but those who are sexually active are also having less sex.
Many possible causes for this dip in sexual activity have been identified, including increased stress levels and the fact that digital media has supplanted the innate desire for sex. If you have found that your sex life has been dwindling, it might be time to become proactive and take the necessary steps to give it a well-deserved boost.
Make an effort to foster emotional intimacy
There is no denying that some of the best sexual relationships are built on a strong foundation of emotional intimacy and trust. If you are in a monogamous relationship and find that your sex life has been taking a nose dive, consider taking steps to strengthen your emotional connection to your partner.
There are a number of ways in which you can connect on an emotional level. Have honest and open conversations with your partner about life, your relationship, your career goals, your future, and anything else that is important to you as a couple. Put aside time from your busy schedules to spend quality time with one another. Even if you can only do this one a week, you will soon see just how much your sex life can benefit from emotional intimacy.
Invest in sex toys and kinky clothes
Although the use of sex toys and the wearing of kinky clothes is often frowned upon, both can contribute to a healthy sex life. According to kinkycloth.com, investing in a range of strangely sexy clothing and accessories is a great way to reignite the passion between partners. Add a couple of sex toys such as anal beads, vibrators and prostate massagers to the mix, and you and your partner are bound to experience a significant improvement in your combined libido.
Sex toys are also a great way for couples to please each other when penetration is not possible due to moral, physical or emotional concerns. If the thought of walking into an adult gift shop to pick put a handful of sex toys does not appeal to you, consider doing your sexy shopping online. If you are unsure of what to buy, consider reading some online peer reviews, which are generally very helpful.
Watch porn together
Many people are still of the belief that watching porn can do nothing but harm a relationship and ruin your sex life. Thankfully, an ever-increasing number of people have realized that pornography does, in fact, have a place – both in our society and in our bedrooms. According to top Colorado-based psychologist David Schnarch, watching pornography with a partner can help foster both sexual and emotional intimacy.
It is a shared experience that allows you to learn more about your partner’s fantasies. Apart from speeding up foreplay and making it more intense, watching porn with a partner may also decrease the desire to experiment with sex outside the relationship considerably. When deciding what movie to watch, opt for something that piques both partners’ interest, and steer away from anything that obviously contains something that one of the partner finds offensive.
Indulge in in-the-mood-foods
The food you eat can have a direct impact on your sex life. While any healthy, nutritious food will undoubtedly benefit your sex drive by ensuring that your body and brain are in tip-top shape, there are certain items that are of greater benefit than others. Eggs are known to benefit men living with erectile dysfunction, while almonds are particularly beneficial to women as they promote healthy circulation and relaxation.
There is a reason why chocolate is such a popular Valentine’s gift too. Dark chocolate, especially, stimulates serotonin and endorphin production in the body, improving your mood. Coffee is another popular stimulant, and can boost sex drive considerably when consumed in responsible quantities.
Make time for sex
While it may sound like a lame excuse, there are countless couples who simply can’t find the time to be intimate with one another. If this is the case, it is necessary to actively put aside time for sex. Choose one night a week (or even just once a month to start off with) when you will refrain from bringing work home and when the kids can be sent to bed early. Jot it down in your respective diaries like a regular appointment if you are scared you are going to forget about it.
You can either spend some intimate time together in your bedroom or make a date out of it and spend the night in a hotel. Once this becomes routine and your passion is reignited, you will find that you will naturally make more time for not only sex, but general quality time together as well.
Aim to stress less
Regardless of how sexual a being you are, stress can have a devastating effect on your sex life. Women are typically more prone to these effects, while men tend to turn to sex in a bid to ease their stress. By addressing your stress, you indirectly address your decreased libido as well. There are many natural ways in which stress levels can be reduced. This includes participating in enjoyable pastimes such as reading or listening to music, engaging in physical activity, and meditating. In cases of severe anxiety and stress, it might be necessary to seek professional medical advice. It is important to note that many medications, including those prescribed for mental health concerns, can decrease libido extensively.
There are many reasons why a couple may be experiencing a dip in sexual attraction. Thankfully, there are just as many ways in which the concerns can be addressed and the passion can be reignited.